At times I feel being a man is more difficult than being a woman. Like the saying goes, Man feels no pain. Is that really true? Why do men hide their feelings? Is it the ego? Social stigma? or is it the fear of being ridiculed? “Mard ke seena mae dard nahi hota” is a humbug. Of course men feel the pain and if I think about it, it is deeper than a woman’s. A woman can go about and cry when she feels like. Hundreds of folks would surround her and comfort her. A guy on the other hand, would never take this chance. He does not want a cry baby tag around his neck. We women are in a better position when it comes to feelings. We open up and tell the world what we feel. And since it is an accepted fact that women’s feelings are more complex and interlinked to thousand other factors, we are heard up on with more patience. We get all the empathy and sympathy. We are allowed to yell and nag. But when a man yells—that is the end of it. If the yelling is on a woman, he is rude (of course, he is not supposed to) and if he yells at a man, it turns into a fight. A man would keep his feelings deep within himself. So, there are two things that can happen. A) He forgets one feeling as soon as the other feeling needs space or B) He piles them all up and builds a volcano. And since you are a man, this volcano is not allowed to burst. This volcano, unable to burst keeps burning and then one day you get so used to the sensation that you can’t feel it any more.
At birth, we are all the same. A girl baby is as cute as a boy baby. They use the same toiletries on them. Whether it is a boy or a girl, Johnson’s product is what is used. Both of them are allowed to express themselves in the same way. The world would have been a different place if we could still continue to express ourselves the way we always used to. Express ourselves without the sexes coming in between.
Don’t keep all those feelings within yourself. If you can express love, (which most of them suck in doing) you can express other emotions too. Find a partner who would understand. Cry to them. Pour your heart to them. After all, real men do cry. Secret: Women love real men over the fake ones ;-)